Theory of Enchantment

Where Human Connection 

Meets The Human Condition

chloe@theoryofenchantment.com

WHATS THE BIG IDEA?

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The most powerful stories are those that allow us to see ourselves and our potential in each other's personal narratives. These stories are what we gravitate toward in pop culture: From Disney Pixar films to Nike ads to songs by Beyoncé, we gravitate toward content that inspires us and leads to greater human connection. 


But the themes in these stories are not just fictions. They speak to the deepest truths about who we are as a species. What if we used these themes from the stories that connect us to make conflict -- the things that separate us -- go away? The Theory of Enchantment is a new framework that aims to do just that. 



THE PROBLEM


Polarization on social media and in our culture of mass consumption has increasingly led to a lack of genuine connection with one another. We are more isolated and experience feelings of loneliness, depression, and alienation with those around us, especially those who are different in some ways from us. 


This can lead to an inability to deal productively with interpersonal conflict, whether that's in our personal lives, the workplace, or in society at large. 




THE SOLUTION



The Theory of Enchantment is a new framework that solves the problem of human connection by probing two questions: What is the psychology of connection and can we use that psychology to heal and avoid conflict? The first question is answered by first studying pop culture — the various things we as a society deeply connect to, from literature to music to corporate social capital, like Nike’s Just Do It mantra — which is attractive to people who desire to reach maximum potential. 


From there, I take the question of why we connect to these things and present how to generate connection in everyday human interactions. This takes the form of three principles that can guide us to create deeper relationships, each of which are supplemented by lessons found in pop culture and real-world stories of reconciliation and conflict-mitigation. 



The Three Principles

We are Human Beings Not Political Abstractions

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We have forgotten that to be a human being means that we are complex paradoxes, contradictory, messy, and unable to be pidgeon-holed into ready-made boxes or paradigms.


 It is this realization that is a critical first step for transformative change. 

Criticize to Uplift and Empower, never to Tear Down or Destroy

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If we want someone to change, we must believe in their capacity to change. 


In other words, if we want someone to change, ultimately, we have to demonstrate that we believe in them. It is by anchoring our criticism in a desire to see another human be successful that changes the interaction for all involved. 

Lead with Love and Compassion

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This is ultimately the summation of the Theory of Enchantment. When we are aware of the complexity of what it means to be a human being, and the need to criticize in order to bring about flourishing, we are more likely to lead with love and compassion.


This will enrich our relationships and our sense of self in the long-run. 

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Presentations

Theory of Enchantment - General Overview

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How can we internalize the three principles in our life? By looking deeply at pop culture narratives, music, film, and literature, as well as real-life stories of conflict transformation around the world, The Theory of Enchantment General Overview can provide you with practical solutions to solve areas of conflict in your own life.   

The Disney Experience

Taking lessons from Disney movies to teach how to lead better lives.

What do movies like The Little Mermaid, Aladdin, and the Toy Story franchise teach us about orienting human behavior toward the good? Are there any principles we can take from The Lion King or Frozen  that we can use to stave off the sense of social alienation that leads to poor relationships?  In this presentation, I'll show you how. 

The Magic in the Music

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Can the themes promoted by musical artists like Nina Simone, Jay Z, & Mumford & Sons teach us about how to recognize complexity in each other, lead with love, and have deeper relationships?  In this presentation, I show why there's a reason we gravitate toward certain artists and why it's so critical to look for lessons in the lyrical content produced by musicians we call superstars. 

The Theory of Enchantment with Dave Rubin

Events

November 26, 2018

Duisburg University

8:00pm - 9:30pm

Essen, Germany

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November 26, 2018

Duisburg University

Theory of Enchantment General Overview 

8:00pm - 9:30pm

Essen, Germany

November 27, 2018

University of Humboldt

7:30pm - 9:00pm

Berlin, Germany

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November 27, 2018

University of Humboldt

Theory of Enchantment General Overview

7:30pm - 9:00pm

Berlin, Germany

November 29, 2018

Private Event

7:30pm - 9:00 pm

Amsterdam, Netherlands

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November 29, 2018

Private Event

Theory of Enchantment General Overview

7:30pm - 9:00 pm

Amsterdam, Netherlands

November 30, 2018

Leiden University

11:00 am - 12:30pm

The Hague, Netherlands

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November 30, 2018

Leiden University

Theory of Enchantment General Overview 

11:00 am - 12:30pm

The Hague, Netherlands

December 11, 2018

Dave Rubin Taping

9:00am

Los Angeles, CA

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December 11, 2018

Dave Rubin Taping

Interview

9:00am

Los Angeles, CA

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Testimonials

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  • "When I bump into parents of students who came to this event ...they tell me their children talked about a special speaker...I highly recommend Chloé. You will be spellbound." - Binnie Swislow, Director of Public High School Center in Chicago


  • "I got to go deep and eat with the amazing Chloé Valdary." - Sarah Silverman, comedian and commentator


  • I have never seen anyone synthesize history, life experiences, and popular culture in this way." - Angie, audience member


  • This Theory of Enchantment Framework will seriously help us in college, especially when we want to talk about difficult topics with our peers." - Alan, college student. 


  • Honestly, I've never learned more as a moderator from a speaker than from Chloé. - Benjamin, conference organizer. 


  • "[Her] ideas are...useful and ..will help us move in the right direction in defusing conflicts and tensions." - Israeli Ambassador Aviv Shir-On, The Hague, Netherlands. 


  • "I've been a mentor and friend to Chloe Valdary for years. I know her as a woman of complete integrity, striking originality and a bold independence of mind. I turn to her frequently for advice and insight, especially when it comes to the subject of millennials. And I benefit from her insights on fostering human connection and promoting human rights." - Bret Stevens, Pulitzer Prize winning journalist

About Chloé

After having lectured in communities around the world on conflict resolution, interpersonal growth, and reconciliation in previously polarized spaces, Chloé Valdary is taking her innovative theory of change, the ‘Theory of Enchantment’ from the non-profit sector to the corporate world. Combining the psychology of persuasion with profound insights from household names in pop culture, Chloé’s ‘Theory of Enchantment’ is a philosophy that can help change agents and corporate leaders navigate an increasingly polarized world and help untapped human potential along the way. 

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